Dear Kathy writes beautiful essays; provocative thoughts that one can chew on, muse about the meaning and how it might bring about change in their life if put into play.
Some of my thoughts are thus:
without guilt there are no regrets….no opportunity to ponder how to not only forgive yourself but also how to ask for forgiveness.
without shame to hide then what can you worry about?
All you have done is to keep making this shamefully ultra bad secret a troll under your exterior or bridge of life.
i am ashamed of many things I have done; yes, I feel guilt, remorse….what to do?
if I should reveal myself to the person I feel I have desecrated would they remember the same incident as I do? Would their truth be different from mine. What if they did not want to remember? What if they did not want to forgive?
then there is the inevitable depression while you ponder how to “fix” it.
what to do? More shame at failing, more guilt, more regrets, the never ending cycle.
therefore, I admit what I have done, apologize and quietly murmur to myself as I tromp over the bridge, “that ship has sailed,”